Love & Respect From Who Knows You Best
It is so easy to go through life and put on what I would like to call a game face. Depending on where you are, you play the part. You put on a game face at church; you put on a game face with your spouse. You put on a game face with your kids; you put on a game face at work. You put on a game face when you're with your friends. Here’s the truth; game faces are worth very little.
What matters most is who you really are you. At the end of the day, it's easy for me to put a game face on for you. You're reading this right now, and you don't know me. You know me, but how well do you know me? It’s easy for us to put on a game face online and on social media. We want people to look at us a certain way, but the people that really know the you the most. I am talking about the people that live with you, and the people that work the closest to you. They really know you.
I get it. Only you really know you, and you are really truly who you are when you're by yourself, when it's just you. However, those closest to you, they know you the best. Here's where I'm at in my life; I love you, and I want to help you. I get so much energy from just adding value to your life, your life work, your ministry, and whatever else you do on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I love it. I love you, but you know what? I hope that you love me. The fact that you're giving me your attention is a huge gift, and I'm amazed how the podcast and how our magazine are growing. I'm getting invited to speak more places than I've ever been invited to speak in my ministry. That kind of love means the world to me, but let me tell you something: there's a group of people that I really, really, really care about them loving me. It is the people that are the closest to me. I want the people that know me best to love me the most.
Don't get me wrong, I want you to love me, and you know that I want to love you. However, I want the people that know Ryan Frank the best (I mean the people that live with me, the people that do life with me Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday) to love me. I want them to have the utmost love, and not only love but the most utmost respect for me because I am the real deal. I want that for me. That's what is driving me forward right now.
I also want that for you. I want the people that are the closest to you to love you the most and respect you the most. I want that for your life. Here's the thing; you've got to work so hard at this, and I have to work so hard at this. What it all really comes down to is this; it's a character issue. I told you earlier that character is really who you are when you're by yourself. Character is who you are in the dark, you could say, or character is who you are when no one else is around. The people that are living with you, the people that are working with you in your office; the people that you're sharing projects with; people that you're doing life with, I want them to love you and respect you. It will take a lot of work. You’ve got to choose to have your spiritual life as a priority, and your close relationships need to be a priority.
If there are people that are going to get cheated in life, it's not going to be those people that are the closest to me. Andy Stanley wrote an entire book about this, based off a sermon series; it’s called Choosing to Cheat. His point was that we are never going to get everything done in life that we want to get done. We're never going to accomplish everything that we want to accomplish. We're never going to get all of our goals done. We're never going to do everything we want to do at work, or we’re never going to do everything we want to do in our ministry, in our life, with our hobbies, with our health, and with our wealth. His point was that if you are going to cheat somewhere, don’t cheat those that are closest to you.
Cheat your work; cheat your hobby. Cheat your friends, but don't cheat those that are the closest to you. He says that you need to choose to cheat in other areas, so that the people that are the closest to you, the people that you love the most, they feel that love, and they know that you are there.
It takes a daily commitment. In a busy life, in the busy world that we live in; with so much pulling at us for our time; so much pulling at us for our attention, I don't want you to get caught in the trap of not being really loved and really appreciated by those that are the closest to you. I want those that are the closest to you think the most of you, and I want that for me too.
Friend, there's my challenge for you; there's the frog I want you to eat today. Mark Twain said that if you eat a live frog first thing in the morning, nothing worse is going to happen to you the rest of the day. The live frog I want you to eat today is this; I want you to take a real good look at those that are closest to you. What do they think? Do they really love you like nobody else loves you? Do they respect you like nobody else respects you? Do they think more of you than anybody else thinks of you? Yes because they know you better than anyone else knows you.
Your #1 fan,