Four Words That Can Change Everything
I want to talk to you for a minute about four words that can literally change everything. These four words can change everything, especially as it relates to you and your volunteers, your employees; your staff; your pastor; the people you work with; your wife; your husband; your kids, the other members of that committee or that council. These four words can literally change everything. You know what they are: What do you think? We don't ask that question near enough. What do you think? (I guess I shouldn't say we. I shouldn't make a generality of it.) But I really think, if we're honest, a majority of us do not ask this question enough. “Would you really tell me what you think about this product? Would you tell me what you think about this new curriculum? Would you tell me what you really think about starting this new ministry? Would you tell me what you think about using this volunteer over here? Would you really tell me what you think about those songs? Would you really tell me what you think about what we're going to do next Wednesday night?”
By asking the question “what do you think,” I really don't know if there's a question that shows more dignity and respect to the listener than anything else. What do you think? If we're honest, most of us are pastors or leaders, so we are expected to have all of the answers. We are expected to know it all. You solve the problems around there. You fix things. You come up with the plans. You come up with the programs. We often live in his bubble, in this silo, and we do not bring in the voices of wisdom that we so desperately need. I'm going to tell you something. If you want to increase the wisdom, you increase the size of the room. Bring more people around the table. Get more feedback. Ask people what they think. “Would you tell me what you think?” Here's the frog I want you to eat today. I want your feedback, I Love Kidmin Nation, those of you that are reading this right now. Here's the frog I want you to eat. If you're thinking “what on earth does Ryan mean by eating a frog?” Here's what I mean.
Mark Twain said that if you eat a live frog first thing in the morning, nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day. The point was, you need to do the most difficult things first because then everything else gets easier. Here is a frog I want you to eat. I want you to think about this right now. You may have a million other things to do today, but when you eat a frog, you do the most difficult things first.
Here's what I want you to do. I want you to be thinking of who should you invite to the room? Who do you need to bring around the table? Who do you need to call? Who do you need to text? Who do you need to email? Who do you need to ask this very, very important question, “what do you think?” Then, when that person tells you what they think, listen like there's no tomorrow. Look them in the eye. Value their feedback. It doesn't mean you have to do what they say, but you are valuing their feedback. There's a reason why the Bible says there is safety in the multitude of counselors. You need to know what other people think.
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