Are You a Likeable Person?
Are you a likeable person? I mean, honestly, are you likable? What about your countenance or the way you look on Sundays? Are you being friendly? That stuff matters. Yes, people should jump into children's ministry and volunteer regardless of the leader because of the high value and the impact, but at the end of the day, people follow leaders. I understand not everybody is extroverted, but even if you are introverted by nature, you need to be likeable. I remember early in my ministry, I would always be in such a hurry and be so task focused that I would run through the church on Sundays. Every once in a while people would ask me if I was upset or mad because I would just fly by people because I had things to do. However, I wasn't mad. I just had things that needed to be done.
Thankfully, I have learned better. I think it is a habit and a skill that you can develop where you intentionally, look someone in the eyes and say hello. Sometimes it bugs Beth because it takes me forever to leave the church because I'm funny about walking past people. If I walk by somebody, I want to look them in the eye and say hi. It doesn't mean I have to have a whole conversation, but I really do want to try and make eye contact with people and smile. Which for me, sometimes I have to force it, but just force a smile because I think this is a big deal. Just your interpersonal skills are huge. Random acts of kindness are key; just doing random things. I talked about this on Facebook the other day, but secret random acts of kindness where somebody doesn't even know what you did. It's good for the person that receives it, but it also does your heart some good.
This happened to us last Sunday night after church. We went to Texas Roadhouse. (Which by the way, Marion, Indiana got a Texas Roadhouse. I never thought it would happen, but it happened. It's staying busy, which is a praise.) We went there Sunday night after church with my brother, his wife, and their kids. So all of our kids were at their own table and we were over at our table. I saw a friend of mine from a distance that I hadn't seen in awhile. So I texted him and said, "hey, I ran out of butter. Do you have any extra butter?" Just like teasing with him Well then he came over to the table quick, said hey, then left. He bought all of our meals. That is a random act of kindness. That was really, really cool. So we paid it forward. We just picked a family and said, "let's do theirs." That was what made me think, like how many random acts of kindness am I doing?
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