Make the Right Destiny Decisions

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I want to talk to you today about destiny decisions.  There are decisions that you're going to make in your life that ultimately determine your destiny. The biggest decision is that of trusting Christ as your savior; putting your faith in the completed work of Christ on Calvary. Once you’re a believer and once you are into your life work in your ministry and what it is that you are passionate about day after day, whether it’s your family or different relationships or at work, there are decisions that are destiny decisions because they impact literally the trajectory of your life.  

One of those destiny decisions is this- it is what I say yes to and what I say no to.  I’ve taught for years that the two most important words in the English language are yes and no. How you answer yes or no determines your destiny; it really determines the path of your life.  The challenge is that we are faced with so many opportunities day after day. It’s easy to say yes or no to a good decision or to bad decision. If something is an obvious bad decision, that's an easy no, but how do you differentiate between good things and great things? That's where it gets difficult and that's where you need wisdom, that's where you need accountability, that's where you need people speaking into your life.  That's where you choose that I'm going to do my best to be prayed up, to lean in on the Holy Spirit, to use the wisdom and the brain that God has given me to make the right decisions.

John Maxwell says that you need to say no to good things so that you can say yes to great things.  For some people it's a big challenge because you want to say yes to everything, and I get that! I deal with this where I deal with opportunity overload. I love to say yes!  It is so easy to say yes, and I want to say yes, and I want to have a culture within my organization and my ministry where I'm saying yes. But if I constantly say yes, and I say yes to everything that enters my life, it's going to ultimately hinder me and hurt me.

A little secret I learned many years ago is that saying no doesn’t mean that you're saying never.  It can mean that you are saying not right now, so maybe you say no to golf right now or say no to joining that bowling league or that tennis club or maybe you say no to taking that second job or you say no to joining that board,  you say no to that trip, you say no to that overtime. It doesn’t mean that you are saying “forever”, I am never going to join that golf league, forever I'm never going to take a mission trip, forever, I’m never going to join that board.  You are saying not right now because of other things in my life. Because what I say yes to and what I say no to, they are destiny decisions.

Let me caution those of you that are my age or a little bit younger and you still have kids at home.  I struggle with this everyday; I want to do more, I want to start new ministries, I want to launch new programs, I want to create new resources.  I want to reach more people and I want to grow my influence. Here's something I've been wrestling with; that is don't be afraid to take your foot off the accelerator and slow down for such a time as this.  My kids are only going to be small for so long and then they're going to grow up and they're not going to think I'm as cool as they think I am right now. There are seasons in life where you need to give yourself permission to take your foot off the accelerator, apply some pressure on the brakes, and whatever makes you happy, the things in your life that you value, which are hopefully those important things like your relationship with the Lord, and your ministry, and your family.  Those things that you value, make sure that they have a priority in your life. How do I know if they have a priority in my life? It always reflects on my calendar, it always reflects in my schedule. If I ask you what your priorities are and you begin to tell me, I would say okay, now let me see your calendar because your priorities in your calendar are always in alignment with each other. If your walk with the Lord is a priority, it'll show up on your calendar, if your kids are a priority it will show up on your calendar, if your marriage is a priority, it will show up on your calendar, if your physical health is a priority, it will show up on your calendar, if your financial well-being is a priority, it will show up on your calendar.  Make sure that you are saying yes to the right things today and make sure that you are saying no to the wrong things today. What you say yes to and what you say no to are destiny decisions that impact the path and the trajectory of your life.


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Ryan

Ryan Frank